How to know when something isn’t working

We often have these grand ideas of what we think (and want) life, our relationships, and our health to look like. Sure, I am a huge believer that we all deserve to live healthy, happy and dream-like lives, and part of this whole thing we call life is about finding how that looks for us specifically.

We hear people talk about what has worked for them, maybe in their health and fitness, maybe for their career or growing their blog. Especially if we are trying to achieve a similar result, we think that must be *the* way to do it. We may drop everything and start doing what they’re doing and I hate to say it, but if that person is trying to sell us something, suddenly, they start making us feel like it’s the ONLY way to get what we want.

Maybe we try it for a little while and see some results, though often not nearly to the extent we believed was possible. There is no magical pill for any aspect of life and while we know this to be true, we always hope the easy solution will present itself, so when things don’t play out how we hope, we get bummed and disappointed.

This is when we need to learn to change course. Think about our past, what has worked for us personally and what has not. Looking back, when did we feel our best, most successful, most abundant, etc? How did we do things then and what aspects can we bring back to our current state?

Lately, I’ve been playing around with some things in my life and realizing that some things I’ve been trying for a bit just aren’t really working. It’s possible there are several different factors playing in, but over the last few weeks I have really come to realize that something isn’t right and it’s time to do something about it. I’m not quite ready to go into the details here just yet, but I do want to bring light to this conversation. Is something not working in your life and are you able to recognize the signs?

1. You’re feeling frustrated

2. You find yourself going through the motions

3. You’re unmotivated in specific areas of your life (health, job, fitness, etc)

4. Things get better temporarily but you quickly find yourself back to this place

5. Your gut keeps telling you ‘this isn’t working’

Depending on the person, these signs could be more subtle or severe; we are all so unique, but the point is that if something isn’t working, then we need to take the steps to recognize it and make a change!


Is there something in your life that isn’t working?

What other signs do you see when you need to make a change?

18 thoughts on “How to know when something isn’t working”

  1. Listening to your gut can be terrifying–so many times we feel that our gut has betrayed us, and we don’t think we CAN listen to it. But maybe it was right all along, and we just don’t know it yet!

    1. (Not so) funny thing is, some of the biggest heartbreaks/falls in my life happened when I didn’t listen to my gut, yet it’s because of those moments that I feel like I can’t trust it. Wrap your head around that…

  2. I have been working on listening to my gut and doing things the way I feel is right this year and even though it can be scary, I am starting to learn that we all have opinions on what works. If we follow our own “opinions” we usually are on a much better path. Do what’s right for you. <3

  3. I am learning to pay attention to my gut more because that’s where I’m happiest.
    When things are starting to feel like chore, like I’m a robot, when I’m feeling like I’m constantly trying to fill my cup with things and it’s still empty – I know that I need to adjust something in my life. If that makes any sense at all.
    This year I know that I had to build boundaries between people and so far that has made major progress in how I feel. I’m able to focus on myself and center myself and my priorities. I hope that you’re able to figure out what is going on. Listen to yourself and what your heart really wants. Usually it’s right. xoxox

  4. I recently went through this when I quit Weight Watchers. I felt like it wasn’t working. Not because of the program, but because I felt like it wasn’t the right fit for me.

    Still, I feel at odds with this because sometimes things CAN work and DO work – you just have to give it a little time. Assuming that you’re putting your whole heart into something. If you’re half-assing it, that may not be the right fit for you!

  5. Thank you for sharing! I wrote something very similar when I went grouch a career change and how I knew it was right to do. It’s he’s giving up on something and not seeing t as a failure but a new beginning!

    1. I have a very hard time with that whole thing of not seeing something as a failure, but I’m working on it!

  6. I feel like I’m doing well right now, but it’s definitely good to be self-aware. I’m pretty good at recognizing when things aren’t going well or something is off with me, and it’s important.

    1. Good! I’m very self aware myself, but it can still be hard though maybe more to ADMIT to myself versus seeing. 😉

  7. There are some things in my life that aren’t working either. It can be hard to make changes, but recognizing the need for change is the first step 🙂

  8. Things are good for me now, but I have certainly had times in the past where I’ve had to make changes. It’s always difficult, but worth it in the end.

  9. I just had this really hit home for me as I’m in the middle of (another) job change. Precipitated by me taking a job last year that I *thought* was the answer…only to discover it was not. And in hindsight? I completely ignored my gut. Every other big step I’ve taken, I’ve *known* it’s the right one for me. With that job? I dithered for nearly a week, then talked myself into it. And then – even worse? – I cried, off and on, during the drive to where we’d be living. And I *still* stuck with it, and for longer than I should have. So yes. Listen to your gut. Totally in agreement with you. And I hope hope hope that your changes are similarly positive for you. Sometimes? You just have to jump.

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