The battle with imposter syndrome

Have you heard of ‘imposter syndrome’? More so, do you suffer from it yourself?

Don’t be afraid to raise your hand or to speak up. I deal with it myself on a regular basis, and quite honestly, I think we all do from time to time.

If you haven’t heard of this idea before, let me break it down for you…

According to Wikipedia:

Imposter syndrome is a concept describing high-achieving individuals who are marked by an inability to internalize their accomplishments and a persistent fear of being exposed as a “fraud”.

Beyond that mere definition, I think it also extends not just to what we HAVE accomplished, but what we actually BELIEVE we can accomplish.

Are you with me now?

I’ve been struggling with this a lot lately, especially as I think ahead to my future, goals and what I’m hoping to accomplish with my life, and I often find myself going “but I can’t do XYZ” or “there’s no way I could do XYZ” or “why would anyone hire me for XYZ, I know nothing/have no experience/some other self deprecating thought.”

It’s ridiculous. And also, it’s complete bullshit. (And I’m totally not apologizing for my language…this is me.)

Yet this is where my mind goes. But you know what? It’s time to break the pattern; it’s time to break the cycle; it’s time to change my thoughts.

 

Does that mean I’m going to wake up tomorrow and suddenly have the confidence to take over the world and never doubt another thing for the rest of my life? No, of course not. But it does mean that with each day where I can change my thoughts from being filled with limiting beliefs to believing in my own abundance, I am one step closer to those goals and desires I have for myself.

If I believe that I am stupid, broke, ugly, and undeserving of love, then I am going to constantly feel stupid, broke, ugly, and undeserving of love. BUT if I can change those thoughts around and believe that I am smart, successful, abundant, gorgeous, confident, and worthy of love, then those things are going to start showing up in my life.

There’s no such thing as an overnight success (despite what we want to believe or want others to believe), whether in business, music, or life; it all takes time, attention, energy and guess what, HARD WORK. So I’m working at it. I’m working at changing my thoughts; I’m working at believing that I am successful and abundant; I working to believe that people see my hard work, determination, dedication, love, desire, brains, success, etc…

I’m working to break the damn imposter syndrome mentality because I am WORTHY and DESERVING of so much more than that!

Now tell me, do you suffer from imposter syndrome?

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24 thoughts on “The battle with imposter syndrome”

  1. Oh, yes yes I do. On so many levels. Sometimes, I feel like even if I was doing what I thought I am supposed to be doing, I would feel like an imposter in that space as well. I hope that one day I will figure out a way to win that battle.

    1. I constantly remind myself that when I’m AUTHENTIC and when I’m truly ME, that’s when everything really resonates…like this post and the amount of engagement it received…it came from the heart and it WORKED.

  2. I love where you say there’s no such thing as an overnight success. It reminds me of something I once heard Hall of Fame Quarterback Steve Young say: “People don’t realize how many years it takes to become an overnight success.”

    Yup, it is all about working hard and believing in ourselves. Sometimes that is tough to do, but we have to keep pushing forward. I think we all struggle with it, but the ones that persist are the ones who succeed.

  3. I didn’t even know it had a name, but this is totally me! I keep adding certifications and letters behind my name thinking that will make me feel like less of a fraud, but it doesn’t work and I’ll just end up with walls lined with paper if I don’t break it. Thank you!

    1. Oh man! That’s really interesting…I keep wondering about going back to school and I keep asking myself if it’s just because I want more letters after my name and new pieces of paper on my walls…

  4. I think more people suffer from this than they even realize. I know it’s something I’m working through myself. I’m better when it comes to certain things than others, but I’m not 100% confident in the things that I can do or could achieve.

    Thanks for sharing!

    1. I think you’re right! I often talk to people about this and when they say “what’s that?” and I explain it, they ALWAYS are like “oh my gosh, YES! That’s me!”

  5. Yes. Most days I can talk myself out of breathing if I let myself. I think things through and doubt myself so many times that I miss great opportunities. I hate that. I need to work on that. I will do that!! Thanks for this!

  6. I think we all deal with varying degrees of imposter syndrome…I question myself all the time and then change my attitude and just go do them without judging myself too much..or at least I try to do that!

  7. I think I’ve felt this way ever since I graduated college and became an “adult.” Like I’m just living I this world pretending to be an adult but I’m really still just that kid. So good to know I’m (we’re) not alone.

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